20 Mar 2012
in Advice, Anxiety, Babies, Behavior Issues, Children, Fashion, Organization, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Development, Discipline, Family, Going Back to Work, Martha Stewart, Mental & Physical Health, Organization, Perfection, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Since I started working for the family business and am spending more time getting ready to teach a social media class at the UW, I’ve had little to no extra time to write here. I miss it. Working part-time has been an interesting balancing act that has had both good and bad outcomes.
The first month I went back to work, I was pretty much a wreck. I forgot a birthday, didn’t pay the monthly piano lesson bill, and showed up at the dog groomers instead of for my hair appointment—and even now, I’m sure I’m neglecting to remember what else I forgot. If you know, don’t remind me, please. It’s over. More
31 Jan 2012
in Anxiety, Children, Confidence, Development, Elementary School, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Time Management, Working Moms
Tags: Anxiety, Kids in School, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Here I am sitting in café writing. I never do this-ever! I’m feeling really crunched for time lately. I’m here at the café writing because we live thirty minutes from our daughters’ school/dance classes and it seems silly to drive all the way home and then turn around and drive another half hour back when I’m already commuting a minimum of two hours a day. I’m trying to be more disciplined, organized, and efficient with my time. You’d think I’d have lots of extra time since I’m a stay-at-home mom and my kids are in 1st and 4th grade, but I don’t.
Life is busy and being a stay-at-home mom is busier than it may seem. There are so many things to do every day (I’m not sitting around doing nothing). Sometimes the work that I do seems invisible because it’s repetitive. Like making sure all the laundry is clean, cooking home-made meals every night, making egg-free lunches every day, washing dishes, cleaning the house, driving the kids to and from school and after school activities, helping with homework, volunteering at their school, quality family time, etc. The list goes on forever.
I’ve thought a lot lately about how working moms do it. I feel inadequate when I think about it. Sometimes I feel like maybe I should do more…Then I think about everything I do and I circle back to—I am doing a lot. I’m productive; I’m not lazy. How do working moms do it all!?!
Something has to give, right? More
25 Jan 2012
Tags: Confidence, Development, Discipline, Goals, Mental Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Pictures from Pinterest
I turned 39 last Sunday. It was kind of a crazy day. We had spent the weekend at a house in the rural foothills of Eastern Washington surrounded by nearly four feet of soft powdery snow. It was beautiful! When we arrived on Friday, we had to snowmobile in with our bags part of the way because our vehicle couldn’t get through part of the road that hadn’t been plowed. When it was time to leave on Sunday, we had to hike three miles with our kids and cat/dog because our vehicle had to be towed out part of the way because it was stuck on an icy road on a steep hill. If I had known the roads would have been so tricky, I probably wouldn’t have gone…but guess what? I do know what the roads are like and we’re going back this weekend! We’ll just be a little more prepared (with chains) this time.
I know it probably sounds crazy (at least that’s what my mom says), but honestly the almost 72 hours of fun, beauty, adventure, and relaxation we experienced was worth the several hours of hiking and digging that we had to do. I’ve realized that there are probably many things I haven’t done in the past out of fear. More
13 Oct 2011
in Babies, Beauty, Precious Moments, Pregnancy, Sleep, Transitions
Tags: Babies, Pregnancy, Transitions
This is Bella at 5 years old with her kitty, Zip, who she still sleeps with every night.
Fall is one of my favorite seasons of the year. Our first daughter, Bella, was born in the Fall, so that makes this time of year even more special to me. It’s hard to believe she will be ten years old in a few weeks. Where has the time gone? Every year, around this time, I think back on the last few months of my first pregnancy. This is one of the things I remember the most… More
27 Sep 2011
in Beauty, Body Image Issues, Confidence, Fashion, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Personalities and Temperaments, Self-Esteem
Tags: Advice, Beauty, Body Image, Confidence, Education, Mental & Physical Health, Mental Health, Perfection, Personalities & Temperaments, Self-Esteem, Transitions
I can’t help but wonder what all the fuss is about. Why do we feel we need to look, dress, buy, think, and behave a certain way to be good enough? I’m not saying that I’ve never felt that I needed to be something other than myself to be accepted because, unfortunately–I have felt that way. What I’m questioning is why any of us ever feel that way in the first place? When and how does it start? At some point in our life, we all feel the pressure. More
22 Aug 2011
in Confidence, Development, Self-Esteem, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Teachers, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Confidence, Mentors, Self-Esteem, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Transitions, Working Moms
I have been a stay-at-home mom for ten years. I think a more realistic term would be on-the-go mom. I have worked my butt off, and I have loved almost every minute of it. As I look to the future, I feel it’s time to dip my toes back into the working world–as in a paying job. Back to work seems a little intimidating and unsettling, but I have been feeling the pull for a while. Sometimes I scold myself for letting so much time pass, but I’ve been busy doing exactly what I wanted to be doing—being an on-the-go mom. This year our youngest will be in school full-time, so it’s time. I want to go back to work as a writer. More
10 Aug 2011
in Advice, Confidence, Development, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Personalities and Temperaments, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Tags: Advice, Behavior Issues, Confidence, Development, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Personalities & Temperaments, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Photo from The Notebook Doodles
Sometimes I don’t know what I’m thinking or feeling until I say it aloud. It’s kind of like I haven’t fully developed my thoughts about certain things or admitted certain feelings to myself until the moment the words flow out of my mouth. But, once I start openly and honestly discussing topics with friends, acquaintance, or strangers, I have small epiphanies about what is really brewing under the surface of my being, what my thoughts and beliefs are, and who I truly am.
Sometimes I even surprise myself. More
18 May 2011
in Babies, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Development, Education, Health, Marriage, Pregnancy, Sex, Transitions
Tags: Babies, Development, Education, Health, Menstrual Cycle, Periods, Pregnancy, Sex, The Girl Body Book, Transitions, Where Did I Come From?
I didn’t plan on having “the talk” with our daughter, Bella, quite yet. She’s only 9 ½. But, a few weeks ago when we were at grandma’s house, she showed me the books she had been looking at—Where Did I come From?, by Peter Mayle and The Girls Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing up YOU, by Kelli Dunham. She was curious and a little embarrassed, but she wanted to bring one of the books home.
Is it already time to talk about this? More
15 May 2011
in Celebrations & Parties, Family, Kids, Perfection, Precious Moments, Stay-at-Home Moms, Transitions
Tags: Celebrate Life, Family, Life, Perfection, Precious Moments, School, Summer, Transitions, Vacation
Photo from BellaMUMMA.
The kids’ anticipation for summer break is growing. The jubilant energy buzzing through the air is spilling out of the classrooms and halls onto the playground and into our car as we drive away from school. I especially noticed it last Friday. There are still more performances, field trips, celebrations, and graduations to attend, but the kids are starting to ask on a daily basis, ”How many days of school are left”…they don’t seem to care that the weather isn’t cooperating quite yet. They are just excited for a break. More
09 May 2011
in Anxiety, Children, Confidence, Development, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Tags: Anxiety, Challenges, Comfort Zone, Confidence, Development, Life, Margaret Dilloway, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Teaching Kids to Ride Bikes, Transitions
Santa brought bikes for the girls last Christmas. In October, we had to sell all our stuff to move from Hawaii back to San Diego, so this was a Very Big Deal around here.
Our 5-year-old, Kaiya, had never owned one before, and had admired the pink one adorned with Princesses every time we went to Costco. It’s a pretty bike, with a zippered pouch on the front, streamers, and a bell.
She got on for about two seconds, helmet and all, and hopped off.
“I don’t want to ride it,” she said. More