20 Mar 2012
in Advice, Anxiety, Babies, Behavior Issues, Children, Fashion, Organization, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Development, Discipline, Family, Going Back to Work, Martha Stewart, Mental & Physical Health, Organization, Perfection, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Since I started working for the family business and am spending more time getting ready to teach a social media class at the UW, I’ve had little to no extra time to write here. I miss it. Working part-time has been an interesting balancing act that has had both good and bad outcomes.
The first month I went back to work, I was pretty much a wreck. I forgot a birthday, didn’t pay the monthly piano lesson bill, and showed up at the dog groomers instead of for my hair appointment—and even now, I’m sure I’m neglecting to remember what else I forgot. If you know, don’t remind me, please. It’s over. :) More
31 Jan 2012
in Anxiety, Children, Confidence, Development, Elementary School, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Time Management, Working Moms
Tags: Anxiety, Kids in School, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Here I am sitting in café writing. I never do this-ever! I’m feeling really crunched for time lately. I’m here at the café writing because we live thirty minutes from our daughters’ school/dance classes and it seems silly to drive all the way home and then turn around and drive another half hour back when I’m already commuting a minimum of two hours a day. I’m trying to be more disciplined, organized, and efficient with my time. You’d think I’d have lots of extra time since I’m a stay-at-home mom and my kids are in 1st and 4th grade, but I don’t.
Life is busy and being a stay-at-home mom is busier than it may seem. There are so many things to do every day (I’m not sitting around doing nothing). Sometimes the work that I do seems invisible because it’s repetitive. Like making sure all the laundry is clean, cooking home-made meals every night, making egg-free lunches every day, washing dishes, cleaning the house, driving the kids to and from school and after school activities, helping with homework, volunteering at their school, quality family time, etc. The list goes on forever.
I’ve thought a lot lately about how working moms do it. I feel inadequate when I think about it. Sometimes I feel like maybe I should do more…Then I think about everything I do and I circle back to—I am doing a lot. I’m productive; I’m not lazy. How do working moms do it all!?!
Something has to give, right? More
25 Jan 2012
Tags: Confidence, Development, Discipline, Goals, Mental Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Pictures from Pinterest
I turned 39 last Sunday. It was kind of a crazy day. We had spent the weekend at a house in the rural foothills of Eastern Washington surrounded by nearly four feet of soft powdery snow. It was beautiful! When we arrived on Friday, we had to snowmobile in with our bags part of the way because our vehicle couldn’t get through part of the road that hadn’t been plowed. When it was time to leave on Sunday, we had to hike three miles with our kids and cat/dog because our vehicle had to be towed out part of the way because it was stuck on an icy road on a steep hill. If I had known the roads would have been so tricky, I probably wouldn’t have gone…but guess what? I do know what the roads are like and we’re going back this weekend! We’ll just be a little more prepared (with chains) this time.
I know it probably sounds crazy (at least that’s what my mom says), but honestly the almost 72 hours of fun, beauty, adventure, and relaxation we experienced was worth the several hours of hiking and digging that we had to do. I’ve realized that there are probably many things I haven’t done in the past out of fear. More
17 Oct 2011
in Best & Worst Parenting Products, Clothing for Moms & Kids…What is Appropriate?, Fashion, Pressure, Shopping with Kids
Tags: Appropriate Clothing for Kids, Fashion, Girls Halloween Costumes, Kids Halloween Costumes, Pressure, Sexy Halloween Costumes, Style, Tweens
Photo from Party City.
I took my six and nine-year-old daughters to Party City to pick out their Halloween costumes. We go there because they have the largest selection of Halloween costumes in our area. The kids section is on one wall and the teen and adult section is a few feet away on a different wall. Olivia chose a witch costume and Bella chose the Avatar Neytiri costume. Fine so far, except for this… More
23 Aug 2011
in Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Confidence, Eating Disorders, Education, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Beauty, Body Image Issues, Books, Children, Confidence, Development, Eating Disorders, Kids Dieting, Maggie Goes on a Diet, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem
We cannot ignore the fact that some children are obese and that may lead to self-esteem, body image, confidence, and serious long-term physical health issues. I understand that this is a complex issue that needs to be addressed. But this type of book, with that type of title, isn’t the way to go about making a positive change. This book is irresponsible and sends an unhealthy message. More
16 Aug 2011
in Beauty, Body Image Issues, Confidence, Controversial Parenting, Development, Mid-life Crisis, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Beauty, Body Image Issues, Confidence, Controversial Pareneting, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Katie Makkai, a veteran poetry slammer, defining the word “pretty”. This video is a little intense at times and worth watching to the very end when Katie delivers the goods! (Not appropriate for young children.)
I was looking through a magazine last weekend when my nine-year old daughter, Bella, noticed a head shot of a women in her late 60’s. More
05 Jul 2011
in Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Precious Moments
Tags: Life, Pressure, Relax
As I’m writing this, I am trying to ignore all of the bags of clothing, dry groceries, dirty laundry, and “to-do” lists that are scattered around the house from returning from an extended holiday weekend–our house looks like a bomb went off. The kids are asleep and I could be organizing and cleaning right now, but I don’t feel like it. We had a fabulous time with our friends over the weekend, a spectacular 4th of July, it’s sunny and suppose to be in the 80’s today, and I’m still on vacation mode, which is where I would like to stay forever. I know that’s not realistic, but… More
21 Jun 2011
in Advice, Body Image Issues, Children, Confidence, Eating Disorders, Education, Self-Esteem
Tags: "Fat", 6 Year Old Girl Worried She's Fat, Advice, Beauty, Body Image Issues, Development, Dieting, Eating Disorders, Kids, Media, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Pressure to be Thin, Self-Esteem, Taylor Call
Negative body image for girls can begin as young as 3 years old. Please watch this video as 6-year-old, Taylor Call, shares her feelings of being fat and a panel of 5 to 8-year-old girls talk about their friends, mothers, and teachers being “fat”.
I don’t think kids are born with an innate sense of obsessive body consciousness. I think we—meaning mothers, fathers, teachers, peers, and the especially the media–are creating an atmosphere in which there is constant pressure to be “more beautiful”, “thin”, and “better looking”.
Case in point: More
13 Jun 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Andrea Owen, Family, Life Coach, Motherhood, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Struggles, Taboo Topics, Your Kick Ass Life
Andrea Owen rocks! She is funny, intelligent, open, caring, and inspiring. Andrea is also a speaker and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about helping women empower themselves to live their own kick-ass life.
Here is Andrea…
Do I love my kids? Check!
Am I grateful for how awesome and healthy they are? Check!
Am I so happy I get to be a mommy? Check!
Is motherhood and being a stay-at-home-mom everything I’d always dreamed it would be? Ch—-
Er… no. More
31 May 2011
in Anxiety, Children, Development, Keeping Up with the Jones’, Time Management
Tags: Actvities, Anxiety, Over-Scheduling, Play, Pressure, Summer Camps, Time Management
Sometimes it’s difficult to resist the temptation of over-scheduling ourselves and our kids. At the beginning of each school year, I fill Bella & Olivia in on their options and they chose what they want to do. I don’t let the girls participate in more than two extracurricular activities at a time. Sometimes I think they can participate in “just one more” activity because it’s hard to turn down all of the exciting opportunities that are available for kids these days, but I know that if we add just one more organized activity we all pay the price. Free time is essential.
There are times during the school year that I feel too busy, hurried, and pressured to go-go-go. I have good intentions, but sometimes I over commit to too many activities myself. I absolutely love summer because there is a simplistic relaxed vibe and much more time for unstructured creative play.
Over the extended Memorial Day weekend, the kids ran wild outside for four days straight and did not participate in one structured event. They did not complain of being bored once and they played so hard they practically fell asleep before even falling into bed. They had a great time. It was awesome.
Yay. Summer is almost here…
I don’t want to be over committed. Studies have shown that unstructured, creative play is crucial for optimal child development. If you are feeling the pressure of over-scheduling yourself or your kids, just remember that free time is just as valuable, if not more, than structured time. Don’t cave into pressure. The kids won’t “fall behind” if they don’t sign up for every possible activity available to them. They will just end up feeling pressured, stressed, hurried, tired, anxious, and disconnected if they are over-scheduled. So go outside, play, be creative, and have fun! That is good for everyone!