20 Mar 2012
in Advice, Anxiety, Babies, Behavior Issues, Children, Fashion, Organization, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Development, Discipline, Family, Going Back to Work, Martha Stewart, Mental & Physical Health, Organization, Perfection, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Since I started working for the family business and am spending more time getting ready to teach a social media class at the UW, I’ve had little to no extra time to write here. I miss it. Working part-time has been an interesting balancing act that has had both good and bad outcomes.
The first month I went back to work, I was pretty much a wreck. I forgot a birthday, didn’t pay the monthly piano lesson bill, and showed up at the dog groomers instead of for my hair appointment—and even now, I’m sure I’m neglecting to remember what else I forgot. If you know, don’t remind me, please. It’s over. More
27 Sep 2011
in Beauty, Body Image Issues, Confidence, Fashion, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Personalities and Temperaments, Self-Esteem
Tags: Advice, Beauty, Body Image, Confidence, Education, Mental & Physical Health, Mental Health, Perfection, Personalities & Temperaments, Self-Esteem, Transitions
I can’t help but wonder what all the fuss is about. Why do we feel we need to look, dress, buy, think, and behave a certain way to be good enough? I’m not saying that I’ve never felt that I needed to be something other than myself to be accepted because, unfortunately–I have felt that way. What I’m questioning is why any of us ever feel that way in the first place? When and how does it start? At some point in our life, we all feel the pressure. More
15 Sep 2011
in Beauty, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Confidence, Fashion, Perfection, Style
Tags: Bad Hair Styles, Confidence, Hair, Kids Hair Cuts, Perfection, Perms, Style, Styling Products, Sun In, Women's Hair
This is my Kindergarten picture.
My hair troubles started in Kindergarten when my mom took me and my naturally stick straight hair to get a “Shirley Temple” cut and perm. She meant well, but my hair was a wreck because it wasn’t the type of hair that was meant to be permed. Several sections were tight curls, while others sections were kinky angular kind of curls or stick straight stands that stood out from the curls. Not cute.
When I show friends my Kindergarten picture with my “Shirley Temple” wanna be hairstyle–no one can contain their laughter. Yeah, it’s pretty funny, but I cringe when I think of that picture. My perm had significantly relaxed and my mom had put considerable effort into making me look presentable for that picture. I still have nightmares about my hair being cut off.
I’ve had quite a few hair disasters… More
10 Aug 2011
in Advice, Confidence, Development, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Personalities and Temperaments, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Tags: Advice, Behavior Issues, Confidence, Development, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Personalities & Temperaments, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Photo from The Notebook Doodles
Sometimes I don’t know what I’m thinking or feeling until I say it aloud. It’s kind of like I haven’t fully developed my thoughts about certain things or admitted certain feelings to myself until the moment the words flow out of my mouth. But, once I start openly and honestly discussing topics with friends, acquaintance, or strangers, I have small epiphanies about what is really brewing under the surface of my being, what my thoughts and beliefs are, and who I truly am.
Sometimes I even surprise myself. More
13 Jun 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Andrea Owen, Family, Life Coach, Motherhood, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Struggles, Taboo Topics, Your Kick Ass Life
Andrea Owen rocks! She is funny, intelligent, open, caring, and inspiring. Andrea is also a speaker and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about helping women empower themselves to live their own kick-ass life.
Here is Andrea…
Do I love my kids? Check!
Am I grateful for how awesome and healthy they are? Check!
Am I so happy I get to be a mommy? Check!
Is motherhood and being a stay-at-home-mom everything I’d always dreamed it would be? Ch—-
Er… no. More
15 May 2011
in Celebrations & Parties, Family, Kids, Perfection, Precious Moments, Stay-at-Home Moms, Transitions
Tags: Celebrate Life, Family, Life, Perfection, Precious Moments, School, Summer, Transitions, Vacation
Photo from BellaMUMMA.
The kids’ anticipation for summer break is growing. The jubilant energy buzzing through the air is spilling out of the classrooms and halls onto the playground and into our car as we drive away from school. I especially noticed it last Friday. There are still more performances, field trips, celebrations, and graduations to attend, but the kids are starting to ask on a daily basis, ”How many days of school are left”…they don’t seem to care that the weather isn’t cooperating quite yet. They are just excited for a break. More
11 May 2011
in Anxiety, Beauty, Behavior Issues, Body Image Issues, Discipline, Keeping Up with the Jones’, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Anxiety, Bahavior Issues, Beauty, Body Image Issues, Discipline, Mental Health, Perfection, Personalities, Pressure, Self-Esteem
I have always been a Type A, high-energy person who has lots of goals and “to do” lists. My goals don’t include flying to the moon, being a rock star, becoming a neuroscientist, or anything amazing like that, but they are mine and they are important to me. I’m at my best and happiest when I’m meeting challenges head on and juggling lots of things at once. Sometimes, I feel like a hummingbird flying here and there trying to get it all done. I love that feeling. I’ve always enjoyed striving to reach new goals–until suddenly I wasn’t having fun anymore.
I’m not sure why or when it happened, but something shifted within me. I was trying to make everything “perfect” instead of enjoying the process of learning, creating, and reaching goals. Somehow, I got it stuck in my head that I needed to up the ante. I did this to myself—no one else did. I wanted everything to be “just so”. We all know there is no way to have the “perfect” body, hair, complexion, clothes, relationships, marriage, kids, career, or life. Perfection does not exist, but still… More
06 Apr 2011
in Advice, Body Image Issues, Children, Controversial Parenting, Eating Disorders, Education, Food, Picky Eaters & Feeding Issues, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Advice, Body Image Issues, Children, Controversial Parenting, Dieting, Eating Disorders, Education, Food, Health, Kids, Lifestyle, Perfection, Redbook Magazine, Self-Esteem, Weight
I am in the April issue of Redbook, discussing if we should put our children on diets. I said, “No”. This is my unedited version. I’d love to hear what you think!
Also, I am contributing to Cassandra Mack’s new book, “Grooming Girls for Greatness: Advice and Wisdom for Parents From Parents, Teachers, and Caregivers,” which will be out late Summer or in the Fall. This is a book to help parents build confidence, character, and coping skills in their daughters. More info to come…
Should Parents Put Their Kids on Diets?
Diets and children are not a good mix. I want my kids to have life-long healthy relationships with food and their bodies. By modeling a healthy lifestyle, we can teach our children to celebrate their bodies, savor food, and be active for life. Dieting, which includes food deprivation, restrictive eating, excessive exercise, and negative body talk, can lead to low self-esteem, negative body image, and serious eating disorders.
I have heard first-hand, from women who dieted as children, who expressed the horrible physical, mental, and social consequences and warped thinking that diets lead to—I even know someone who died from the affects of childhood dieting because it led to her disorder eating, which spiraled out of control. I also know women who have wrecked their metabolism, become obese, become anorexic, suffer from body image issues, or lost teeth from binging that started as “innocent” childhood dieting and food vilification. More
28 Mar 2011
in Development, Funny & Weird Stories/Pictures, Health, Perfection, Precious Moments, Quotes
Tags: Health, Life, Off Our Chests, Perfection, Precious Moments, Relationships
Photo by The Notebook Doodles
I have been sick for a few days. It is not like me to lie around in bed all day sleeping my cares away, but that’s what I’ve been doing for the last 72 hours. Well, that and reading. I have a sinus infection and the flu with a high fever too. I’ve lost three pounds in three days. Fun times. Our oldest daughter is just getting over the flu, and I think my husband has the beginnings of it now too. My youngest had it two or three weeks ago. Nice–Now I’m losing track of time too.
You know when you get really sick, have a fever, chills, sweats, and your mind gets really foggy? Everything seems otherworldly. No, I’m not crazy, you may not admit it, but I’m betting it’s happened to you too. Everything’s in slow motion and every interaction becomes more or less meaningful because you’ve been forced to slow down from the go go go thinking and be real right now. You know, think consciously without all the distractions of life.
My husband came to check on me before he left to pick up our daughters’ at my mom’s house. He asked if he could get me anything. I said, “No, but thank you.” When he left, I got up to get myself some Gatorade and saw a note from him. It was a “To Do” list of sorts. More
17 Mar 2011
in Advice, Family, In-Laws, Marriage, Perfection, Relationships, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Advice, Beaver Cleaver, Dysfunctional Family, Family, In-Laws, Marriage, Perfection, Relationships
We all have one. We laugh about them, make jokes at their expense, blame them, and curse them. The list goes on.
As my girlfriend, Debbie so wisely stated: “We all have our own brand of crazy.”
The phrase “dysfunctional family” typically calls to mind something that is broken and damaged. Something that needs to be overcome and risen above.
But the whole notion of the dysfunctional family implies that somewhere, out there, there is one completely perfect family. A family where everyone is always kind and supportive. They are all without flaw.
Bull Sh*t. I’m going to say that they don’t exist.
So if there isn’t a “perfect” family then is it possible that your family is not “dysfunctional”? More