20 Mar 2012
in Advice, Anxiety, Babies, Behavior Issues, Children, Fashion, Organization, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Development, Discipline, Family, Going Back to Work, Martha Stewart, Mental & Physical Health, Organization, Perfection, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Since I started working for the family business and am spending more time getting ready to teach a social media class at the UW, I’ve had little to no extra time to write here. I miss it. Working part-time has been an interesting balancing act that has had both good and bad outcomes.
The first month I went back to work, I was pretty much a wreck. I forgot a birthday, didn’t pay the monthly piano lesson bill, and showed up at the dog groomers instead of for my hair appointment—and even now, I’m sure I’m neglecting to remember what else I forgot. If you know, don’t remind me, please. It’s over. :) More
14 Nov 2011
in Confidence, Development, Quotes, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Tags: Dreams, Goals, Life, Passion
Photos from Pinterest
As adults, we are told that in order to be authentically happy we should follow our passions, do what we love, and dare to not care about what other people think. I agree, but life is messy. It’s easy to get caught up in our day-to-day lives: work, family, friends, kids, school, after school activities, homework, baking, errands, exercise, paying bills, etc. It’s hard to find enough time or money to nurture our individual passions and dreams. We’re just trying to get everything done that needs doing. But, what if that’s not true? What if those reasons are just excuses?
I love this saying because it’s so true: More
13 Oct 2011
in Babies, Beauty, Precious Moments, Pregnancy, Sleep, Transitions
Tags: Babies, Pregnancy, Transitions
This is Bella at 5 years old with her kitty, Zip, who she still sleeps with every night.
Fall is one of my favorite seasons of the year. Our first daughter, Bella, was born in the Fall, so that makes this time of year even more special to me. It’s hard to believe she will be ten years old in a few weeks. Where has the time gone? Every year, around this time, I think back on the last few months of my first pregnancy. This is one of the things I remember the most… More
22 Aug 2011
in Confidence, Development, Self-Esteem, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Teachers, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Confidence, Mentors, Self-Esteem, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Transitions, Working Moms
I have been a stay-at-home mom for ten years. I think a more realistic term would be on-the-go mom. I have worked my butt off, and I have loved almost every minute of it. As I look to the future, I feel it’s time to dip my toes back into the working world–as in a paying job. Back to work seems a little intimidating and unsettling, but I have been feeling the pull for a while. Sometimes I scold myself for letting so much time pass, but I’ve been busy doing exactly what I wanted to be doing—being an on-the-go mom. This year our youngest will be in school full-time, so it’s time. I want to go back to work as a writer. More
10 Aug 2011
in Advice, Confidence, Development, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Personalities and Temperaments, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Tags: Advice, Behavior Issues, Confidence, Development, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Personalities & Temperaments, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Photo from The Notebook Doodles
Sometimes I don’t know what I’m thinking or feeling until I say it aloud. It’s kind of like I haven’t fully developed my thoughts about certain things or admitted certain feelings to myself until the moment the words flow out of my mouth. But, once I start openly and honestly discussing topics with friends, acquaintance, or strangers, I have small epiphanies about what is really brewing under the surface of my being, what my thoughts and beliefs are, and who I truly am.
Sometimes I even surprise myself. More
18 May 2011
in Babies, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Development, Education, Health, Marriage, Pregnancy, Sex, Transitions
Tags: Babies, Development, Education, Health, Menstrual Cycle, Periods, Pregnancy, Sex, The Girl Body Book, Transitions, Where Did I Come From?
I didn’t plan on having “the talk” with our daughter, Bella, quite yet. She’s only 9 ½. But, a few weeks ago when we were at grandma’s house, she showed me the books she had been looking at—Where Did I come From?, by Peter Mayle and The Girls Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing up YOU, by Kelli Dunham. She was curious and a little embarrassed, but she wanted to bring one of the books home.
Is it already time to talk about this? More
15 May 2011
in Celebrations & Parties, Family, Kids, Perfection, Precious Moments, Stay-at-Home Moms, Transitions
Tags: Celebrate Life, Family, Life, Perfection, Precious Moments, School, Summer, Transitions, Vacation
Photo from BellaMUMMA.
The kids’ anticipation for summer break is growing. The jubilant energy buzzing through the air is spilling out of the classrooms and halls onto the playground and into our car as we drive away from school. I especially noticed it last Friday. There are still more performances, field trips, celebrations, and graduations to attend, but the kids are starting to ask on a daily basis, “How many days of school are left”…they don’t seem to care that the weather isn’t cooperating quite yet. They are just excited for a break. More
09 May 2011
in Anxiety, Children, Confidence, Development, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Tags: Anxiety, Challenges, Comfort Zone, Confidence, Development, Life, Margaret Dilloway, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Teaching Kids to Ride Bikes, Transitions
Santa brought bikes for the girls last Christmas. In October, we had to sell all our stuff to move from Hawaii back to San Diego, so this was a Very Big Deal around here.
Our 5-year-old, Kaiya, had never owned one before, and had admired the pink one adorned with Princesses every time we went to Costco. It’s a pretty bike, with a zippered pouch on the front, streamers, and a bell.
She got on for about two seconds, helmet and all, and hopped off.
“I don’t want to ride it,” she said. More
02 May 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Anxiety, Children, Family, Relationships, Transitions
Tags: Anxiety, Family, Greece, Guilt, Parenting, Relationships, The Kids Will Be Okay, Transitions, Travel
I love Nicole’s essay because I have experienced the same feelings. I wonder if all moms feel this way?
Here is Nicole…
Yet another tidbit of information that I realized this week is not in any of the parenting books.
Gary and I have been planning our trip to Greece for six weeks and I have been incredibly excited the entire time, up until two days before we left. It was our first big trip without the boys. My dad and his wife were coming to stay with Alex and Ryan and all of a sudden, I started to feel sad and guilty for leaving the boys. I was missing them before we even left. On the plane, I actually started crying. You know, one of those crying moments when you try to hide it and act like nothing is wrong (I didn’t want Gary to think I was a complete sap) and the harder you try not to cry the worse it gets? Here I am on an amazing vacation that I have so been looking forward to and all I can do is cry about the kids. Not exactly setting the mood from a romantic perspective. More
26 Apr 2011
in Beauty, Behavior Issues, Body Image Issues, Clothing for Moms & Kids…What is Appropriate?, Confidence, Fashion, Keeping Up with the Jones’, Prejudice, Self-Esteem, Shopping with Kids, Transitions
Tags: Beauty, Behavior Issues, Body Image Issues, Clothing for Moms & Kids...What is Appropriate?, Confidence, Fashion, Frump, Grocery Shopping, Keeping Up With The Joneses, Kids, Prejudice, Pride, Self-Esteem, Shopping with Kids, The Notebook Doodles, Tracie Stern, Transitions
I love this piece by Tracie because as a woman and a mother, I can relate to all the thoughts and feelings she wrote about–even if for just a few moments. Haven’t we all felt like these characters at some point in our lives?
You are walking down the grocery store aisle. As a mother of three, you are dressed for comfort and mobility as your list of “To Do” things is long and exhausting. Approaching you from the other end is a woman whose appearance is the kind that makes you take a second look. Her hair is done, not overly but naturally, soft curls pulled back into a half bun, her nails are done and her makeup is natural but enhancing. Her fashion is modern and understated yet as a whole she draws your eye in with an almost sense of admiration because she looks so well put together. At first sight, do you take the stand of pride or prejudice in how this woman is presenting herself?
This situation takes an out-of-body approach. Imagine you are watching the scene unfold as an impartial 3rd party. You see the mom, dressed in a combination of stretchy pants and flats with an over sized sweater. As a description goes, frumpy may come to mind. There is a small child in the cart, eating Cheerios from a plastic bag as mom goes over the list she has written so as to not forget anything. The baggy clothes could be hiding anything–a great figure or in the moms eyes, maybe figure flaws brought on by years of neglect, children, or a forgotten sense of self. No one really knows, as it’s next to impossible to see through it.
When the mom notices the woman approaching from the other end, she will in that instant make a decision. That mom will either judge this woman with a sense of prejudice due to her own self-confidence issues or she will embrace the pride this woman has in herself and give her some mental applause. Which one are you? More