11 Aug 2011
in Anxiety, Behavior Issues, Confidence, Marriage, Self-Esteem, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Anxiety, Confidence, Marriage, Self-Esteem
Sarah is the Crazed Lady behind Spiritual Momma. She is a life coach, blogger, mother, recovering 12 step-er, and junkie for living happy, joyous, and free!
Those who know me personally know I have a solid marriage built on genuine love, care and effort. My husband is a rare breed of man, one who exhibits fanatic kindness, empathy, concern, and compassion for others. He and I are in fact polar opposites in many ways but somehow, we meet in the middle creating a wonderful balance and harmony. I think when all is said and done we both understand and seek to better ourselves first so that we can help one another and our family.
As with any relationship, shit happens. Assumptions are made and tainted perspectives completely skew the filter in which we create our reality from. Last night I experienced this with my husband. He’d been traveling for a short time, returned to an immediate task, kids jumping for joy to see him and me filled with my own personal excitement to share. I could sense the underlying tension or stress he came home with–immediately sparking a bottomless insecurity within me.
One sentence sent me into outer space: he said, “I have a few things to talk to you about when I’m ready”. More
03 Aug 2011
in Behavior Issues, Discipline, Shopping with Kids, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Behavior Issues, Discipline, No Kids Allowed Movement, Shopping with Kids
Photo by ThinkStock
Janell, who is an ongoing contributor at Secrets of Moms, emailed me this piece in reaction to this article. While I’m not sure that I’m on board with The No Kids Allowed Movement, I am quite sure that one of the problems leading to this movement is that some parents are not teaching their children basic manners and are letting their kids run wild. Some parents are getting lazy or find it easier (in the moment, but it won’t be easier long-term) to not discipline their kids. I think the real issue is that parents need to step up to the plate and teach their kids how to be respectful and behave in public.
I wish this were more of a Teach Your Children Basic Manners Movement.
Here’s Janell: More
13 Jun 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Andrea Owen, Family, Life Coach, Motherhood, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Struggles, Taboo Topics, Your Kick Ass Life
Andrea Owen rocks! She is funny, intelligent, open, caring, and inspiring. Andrea is also a speaker and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about helping women empower themselves to live their own kick-ass life.
Here is Andrea…
Do I love my kids? Check!
Am I grateful for how awesome and healthy they are? Check!
Am I so happy I get to be a mommy? Check!
Is motherhood and being a stay-at-home-mom everything I’d always dreamed it would be? Ch—-
Er… no. More
17 Mar 2011
in Advice, Family, In-Laws, Marriage, Perfection, Relationships, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Advice, Beaver Cleaver, Dysfunctional Family, Family, In-Laws, Marriage, Perfection, Relationships
We all have one. We laugh about them, make jokes at their expense, blame them, and curse them. The list goes on.
As my girlfriend, Debbie so wisely stated: “We all have our own brand of crazy.”
The phrase “dysfunctional family” typically calls to mind something that is broken and damaged. Something that needs to be overcome and risen above.
But the whole notion of the dysfunctional family implies that somewhere, out there, there is one completely perfect family. A family where everyone is always kind and supportive. They are all without flaw.
Bull Sh*t. I’m going to say that they don’t exist.
So if there isn’t a “perfect” family then is it possible that your family is not “dysfunctional”? More
28 Feb 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Controversial Parenting, Family, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Outs for Everyone, Working Moms
Tags: Break Time, Family, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Outs For Everyone, Vacation Gone Bust, Working Moms
People get burned out working at jobs sometimes (even jobs they love and are passionate about), so they take a day, weekend, or vacation to refresh, rest, and re-energize. Do you think women who are stay-at-home moms are viewed as “bad mommies” when they need a little vacation from their day-to-day grind?
Do you feel guilty when you take a “break”? How does your significant other fit into the equation?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this!
P.S. This is a picture from a vacation gone bust several years ago. There was a wild-fire and we were literally smoked out of our vacation. My youngest and I ended up sick with severe sinus infections. My first sinus infection of many to come…I needed a vacation after that vacation, but that’s a different topic for another day.
08 Feb 2011
in Advice, Anxiety, Behavior Issues, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Children, Development, Funny & Weird Stories/Pictures, Personalities and Temperaments, Time Outs for Everyone, Toddlers, Transitions, Uncategorized
Tags: Books, Development, Personalities & Temperaments, Potty Training, Pull-Ups, Stress, Time Outs For Everyone, Toddlers, Transitions
A couple of months after my first daughter turned three and out of complete desperation, I bought a book called Toilet Training in Less Than a Day. The Arrin-Foxx “scientifically tested new training method—for the average child–required less than four hours!” Holy cow! I thought I had hit pay dirt. This would be the answer to my daughter’s potty training problems.
I had already read every book and magazine article humanly possible and had asked everyone I knew for advice. I read and heard things like: use cloth diapers, don’t use pull-ups, use pull-ups, don’t give treats, give lots of treats, put kid on potty every ten minutes, get mad, be patient, don’t make a big deal about it, don’t let them leave the bathroom until they go, get them their own potty chair, get a soft seat cover for big potty, get a potty training doll, let them pick out cool underwear, use consequences, keep your kid naked all day, and hold them over the big person toilet until they pee (Seriously!?!)…the list goes on and on. I should have been the potty training expert—I had tried almost everything! Nothing worked—nothing. More
25 Jan 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Anxiety, Behavior Issues, Children, Family, Personalities and Temperaments, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Time Outs for Everyone, Uncategorized
Tags: Am I Going Crazy?, Anxiety, Behavior Issues, Children, Family, Patience, Personalities & Temperaments, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Time Outs For Everyone
People who don’t know me very well, think I am a very patient person. Let me tell you right now: I have zero patience and it’s a problem—my problem. I’ve trained myself to keep my impatience under control and to appear calm, cool, and collected. I definitely have much more patience for children than I do adults. I want to be patient. I try hard, but under the surface, I can feel my impatience brewing, waiting, and wanting.
I’m not a brat. I swear. I’m a nice person. I do “act” patient with my kids, family, friends, and acquaintances most of the time. My impatience is just some weird glitch I’ve had since I was a kid. My mom thought I would outgrow it after having children, and she was genuinely surprised when that never happened.
It’s not that I act outwardly impatient towards people and situations; It’s just that I’m completely freaking out inside.
I’m thinking things like: More
23 Jan 2011
in Behavior Issues, Body Image Issues, Bullies & Mean People, Children, Confidence, Discipline, Personalities and Temperaments, Relationships, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Bullies & Mean People, Children, Confidence, Discipline, Mean Girls, Personalities & Temperaments, Relationships, Time Outs For Everyone
I recently published a similar article at EattheDamnCake.com and Plus-Size Models Unite, but Secrets of Moms is the perfect place for it. I apologize if you’ve already seen this.
We all want life to be as happy, fun, adventurous, positive, loving, and as successful as possible; but I don’t think we can reach those goals by keeping our kids or ourselves in a bubble. We can be in a bubble for a few moments of blissful innocent fun (as seen above), but the reality is that we wouldn’t want our kids or ourselves to be stuck in a bubble forever. More
17 Jan 2011
in Adoption, Advice, Allergies, Baby Names, Beauty, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Breast Feeding, Bullies & Mean People, Celebrations & Parties, Clothing for Moms & Kids…What is Appropriate?, Controversial Parenting, Daycare, Eating Disorders, Education, Fitness, Food, Picky Eaters & Feeding Issues, Games & Crafts, Getting Ready for Baby, Green Living, Health, High School, In-Laws, Infertility, Keeping Up with the Jones’, Marriage, Medication & Prescription Drugs, Menopause, Mental & Physical Health, Mid-life Crisis, Miscarriage, Money, Must Haves, Perfection, Personalities and Temperaments, PMS, Politics, Precious Moments, Pregnancy, Prejudice, Pressure, Quotes, Recipes, Relationships, Religion, Sex, Single Moms, Sleep, Snobby Moms, Special Needs, Style, Support Groups, Teachers, Technology, Teenagers, Things I Said I’d Never Do, Time Outs for Everyone, Toddlers, Toys, Transitions, Uncategorized, Working Moms
This website is for all you parents out there who want to hear the real ins and outs of being a mom. We will discuss the moments, days, feelings, and experiences that most moms don’t usually share with anyone but their closest friends. Almost every mom I’ve met has said that no one ever told her what it’s really like to be a parent. You hear about how wonderful, fun, and lovey everything is (and that’s true), but people don’t tell you about the craziness, unpredictability, and all-encompassing reality of what it’s like to raise kids. I wish I would’ve known the truth sooner, so that I never would’ve felt like a failure for not being perfect. Thankfully, I don’t feel that way anymore–what is perfect, anyway!?! I am perfectly unperfected and so are you. Let’s help all the mom’s out there feel good about themselves and their children, by being real.
This is a place for EVERYONE to have honest, direct dialogue without judgment. Secrets will be told and almost anything goes. We will cover every topic imaginable–the good, the bad, and the funny. Several of my friends will be on-going contributors, and we hope you will comment often. Let yourself be heard! Dads are welcome too. Please share your stories, send us comments and pictures, and tell the truth. As long as you are speaking your truth, you are welcome here. Please be kind to each other, interact, and ask questions.
No nude pictures or completely deviant comments, please.
Liz Nord is the creator of www.secretsofmoms.com. She is a wife and mother of two daughters ages six and nine. She loves family, running, reading, seeking knowledge, baking, laughing, innovating, traveling, in-depth conversations, sunshine, and outdoor adventures. She earned a B.A. in Communications, and completed graduate editing courses at the University of Washington. Liz has published articles in a number of magazines, newspapers, and on numerous websites. She has been a guest on the Leeza Gibbons talk show, Hollywood Confidential, and serves on the Editing Certificate Advisory Board at the University of Washington. She is also the co-creator of Plus-Size Models Unite. She is passionate about promoting healthy self-esteem, positive body image, and confidence. She believes in cultivating who you are truly meant to be and embracing your unique self.
We are an eclectic, intelligent, fun group of women, who are all here to share our parenting experiences. Introducing the rest of the team: More