Be Yourself

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When people ask, “What do you do”, I feel confused about how to answer that question. Sometimes I want to say that I’m a writer, editor, or an artist of sorts, but then I think just because some of my writing and edited material has been published doesn’t necessarily make me a “professional”, so I feel like I’m kind of stretching the truth if I say that I am a writer.

Hmm…what do I do for a living? I’ll tell you what I do…

I listen to my inner voice, follow my own unique path, pay attention to my surroundings, connect with an eclectic mix of people, and see where that all takes me.

Is that an acceptable answer? More

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When the Joke is on You! Catty Women…

When my oldest daughter, Bella, was seven, she said, “You know mom, I know that if someone is smiling and laughing when they say something they are not always being nice or funny. Sometimes they are being mean. They are trying to cover up what they are really doing by saying, ‘Just joking’ and laughing.”

Some people think that when they say, “Just joking” after making a rude comment, that’s their “get out of jail free card.” They are wrong. More

Making New Friends–I’m Not Talking About The Kids

Megan and I have been friends for 20 years. This is a case of two people randomly being thrown together, opposites attract, and becoming the best of friends for life.  :) Thanks, Meg!

Making new adult friends isn’t always easy…

I’m not talking about acquaintances. I’m talking about a true friend who you feel completely comfortable being yourself with. Someone you can goof off with, have fun with, be serious with, and can behave like a complete dork and idiot around without worrying about what they think. Someone you can share your innermost deep thoughts and feelings with knowing that they will not share your information with others or judge you, even if they don’t agree with you. Mutual respect and honesty are present.

A true friend is a part of your “team”. You want what is best for each other and you want each other to thrive and be happy. You don’t compete with each other and you always have each other’s back. You bring out the best and funniest in each other, but you feel safe enough to be at your lowest in their presence.

A real friend is someone who will not maliciously talk shit about you, but she may talk smack to your face.

It is someone who cares enough to tell you when they are upset with you, so that issues can be resolved. Uncomfortable topics are discussed; not swept under the carpet to fester or be ignored. A friend is someone who does not suddenly disappear from your life forever. It is someone, you know deep down, whom you can count on—no matter what. You may not talk for days, weeks, or even months, and things are not always perfect between you, but you know that you are solidly connected. It takes time to get to that place.

I’m not interested shallow relationships. My desire for intimacy and mutual understanding in relationships has led to me having a small eclectic mix of trusted friends. I like it that way. Those friendships are very special to me.

Meeting new friends like that, as an adult or a transplant from another state or country, can be challenging. I’ve spoken to many women about this topic, and the unofficial poll results seems to be that meeting new acquaintances as an adult is easy, but making new real friends with depth is a challenge. Do you think that’s true?

When we meet someone as an adult, many different factors play a role into whether or not the new acquaintance becomes a true friend.

You may see a woman several times…you both smile, there is chitchat and small talk, you enjoy each other, you may share a few stories, books, recipes, and shopping, event, or childcare information. You may wonder–Would I feel comfortable fully expressing myself to this person? Do I want to? Will I be able to trust her? Will our husbands get along? Does that matter? Do the kids get along? Does it matter that they go to different schools? Is she a nice-to-your-face and talk-about-you-behind-your-back type of woman who cares about labels, social ladders, cliques, and being connected to “important” people? If so, I disengage as fast as I can. Who wants to invite that in your life…I want genuine authentic relationships that are not tainted by nonsense—at least it’s nonsense to me. More

Labeling People by Liz Nord

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People laugh at me sometimes because I don’t remember where I buy things. People look at me sideways when I say I don’t know the designer of the clothes or shoes I’m wearing, or what type of car someone is driving, or when I honestly don’t have a clue about the current “it” product. I remember thinking at times, maybe I’m just not that smart. What’s wrong with me? Why don’t I remember those details? I was talking with my friend, Megan, about my concerns. Megan has known me for over twenty years and she knows me very well. She said something like, “You don’t remember those things because you don’t care about those types of things. You are really smart about the things that you are interested in and care about.” Why didn’t I think of that?

I don’t care about labels. I don’t care if I buy my clothes and make up at Target, Nordstrom, some fancy boutique, Fred Meyer, or an unknown about-to-close-down-hole-in-the-wall store. I know what I like and it’s just stuff to me. Material things that don’t make me any better or worse than anyone else because of where I bought it, how much it cost, or how popular it is. What and where we buy things may put us in a certain “social class”, but do you think I care? Not in the least. That is meaningless to me in terms of how I think or feel about myself or someone else. Don’t get me wrong, I like nice things and I appreciate beautiful artwork, clothes, and homes, but we are so much more than what we buy, have, or sell. I’m more interested in getting to know someone based on who they really are—their depth and their story. More

Hello, world! Welcome to the Secrets of Moms Who Dare to Tell All!

Hi, everyone!

This website is for all you parents out there who want to hear the real ins and outs of being a mom. We will discuss the moments, days, feelings, and experiences that most moms don’t usually share with anyone but their closest friends. Almost every mom I’ve met has said that no one ever told her what it’s really like to be a parent. You hear about how wonderful, fun, and lovey everything is (and that’s true), but people don’t tell you about the craziness, unpredictability, and all-encompassing reality of what it’s like to raise kids. I wish I would’ve known the truth sooner, so that I never would’ve felt like a failure for not being perfect. Thankfully, I don’t feel that way anymore–what is perfect, anyway!?! I am perfectly unperfected and so are you. Let’s help all the mom’s out there feel good about themselves and their children, by being real.

This is a place for EVERYONE to have honest, direct dialogue without judgment. Secrets will be told and almost anything goes. We will cover every topic imaginable–the good, the bad, and the funny. Several of my friends will be on-going contributors, and we hope you will comment often. Let yourself be heard! Dads are welcome too. Please share your stories, send us comments and pictures, and tell the truth. As long as you are speaking your truth, you are welcome here. Please be kind to each other, interact, and ask questions.

No nude pictures or completely deviant comments, please.

Liz Nord is the creator of www.secretsofmoms.com. She is a wife and mother of two daughters ages six and nine. She loves family, running, reading, seeking knowledge, baking, laughing, innovating, traveling, in-depth conversations, sunshine, and outdoor adventures. She earned a B.A. in Communications, and completed graduate editing courses at the University of Washington. Liz has published articles in a number of magazines, newspapers, and on numerous websites. She has been a guest on the Leeza Gibbons talk show, Hollywood Confidential, and serves on the Editing Certificate Advisory Board at the University of Washington. She is also the co-creator of Plus-Size Models Unite. She is passionate about promoting healthy self-esteem, positive body image, and confidence.  She believes in cultivating who you are truly meant to be and embracing your unique self.

We are an eclectic, intelligent, fun group of women, who are all here to share our parenting experiences. Introducing the rest of the team: More

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