16 Jan 2012
in Abuse, Eating Disorders, Education, Elementary School, High School, Middle School, Sex, Teachers, Teenagers
Tags: Abuse, Addiction, Eating Disorders, Education, Facebook, Friends, High School, Illness, Legal Obligation, Mentors, Rape, School, Self-Esteem, Sex, Speakers, Teens
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This past weekend, some serious allegations were brought to light regarding a group (more specifically the group’s co-founder) who was scheduled to visit several high schools in my area next month. The result was the co-founder, who was also one of the lead speakers, resigning. I’m guessing he resigned because his past has been highly publicized in the last several weeks causing major uproar and because his current published writing is viewed by some as über controversial, damaging, and inappropriate. More
07 Sep 2011
in Beauty, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Education, Mental & Physical Health, Self-Esteem, Sex
Tags: Body Image, Body Image Issues, Development, Fluid, J.C. Penney, Media, Mental Health, Objectification of girls and women, Self-Esteem, Sex, Sexualization of Girls
J.C. Penney t-shirt
Do we really want to send kids into the classroom with this type of attitude? As if girls don’t already have enough body image issues… More
18 May 2011
in Babies, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Development, Education, Health, Marriage, Pregnancy, Sex, Transitions
Tags: Babies, Development, Education, Health, Menstrual Cycle, Periods, Pregnancy, Sex, The Girl Body Book, Transitions, Where Did I Come From?
I didn’t plan on having “the talk” with our daughter, Bella, quite yet. She’s only 9 ½. But, a few weeks ago when we were at grandma’s house, she showed me the books she had been looking at—Where Did I come From?, by Peter Mayle and The Girls Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing up YOU, by Kelli Dunham. She was curious and a little embarrassed, but she wanted to bring one of the books home.
Is it already time to talk about this? More
29 Mar 2011
in Beauty, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Children, Clothing for Moms & Kids…What is Appropriate?, Fashion, Kids, Mental & Physical Health, Self-Esteem, Sex, Style
Tags: Abercrombie Kids, Ashley Bikini, Beauty, Body Image Issues, Children, Clothing for Moms & Kids...What is Appropriate?, Fashion, Kids, Mental Health, Padded Kids Bikini, Pigtail Pals, Self-Esteem, Sex, Style, Worst Product
People have told me that my Barbie vs. Bratz post was either too conservative or not conservative enough. I hope we can all agree here, that selling push up padded bikini tops to eight-year-old girls it completely and utterly over the top and wrong. Please tell me you agree.
Abercrombie Kids is marketing to girls and boys between the ages of 7 and 14. There is no logical reason for a seven-year-old girl to have a padded anything. The use of the word “push up” is unbelievably inappropriate for young girls. A push up bikini top is designed to make your bust look bigger and more accessible to the eye. Why would a second or third or fifth or whatever grader want to do that? This is clear sexualization of girls, and it really bugs me.
Playing sexy is not appropriate for girls. Kids should be out catching frogs, playing sports, learning an instrument, dancing, playing hopscotch, etc. Let them be kids! Teaching girls that their looks are their primary value is setting them up for future problems with body image, self-esteem, and feelings of self-worth.
Right now, somewhere in the world, a girl is shopping at Abercrombie Kids. She is getting the message that her chest is not good enough; it needs to be bigger and pushed up and out. No, thank you.
There has been such outrage about the bikini top that Abercrombie Kids has removed the word “push-up” from its online catalogue, but not the item. It’s still for sale and being marketed as padded. It’s just wrong. I will never shop at that store.
On a more positive note, check out Pigtail Pals. I love their Redefine Girly t-shirts for ages six months and up. Their t-shirts have empowering positive messages. No, “I’m a princess” or “I’m spoiled” messages here.
Here is their awesome video. It’s a must see. I love it!
Pigtail Pals say, “Instead of ‘parents beware’, let’s work with ‘parents be educated about your options and empowered in how to talk to your kids’. Let’s focus on the companies who are putting good, healthy, inspiring apparel & products out there for girls.”
UPDATE: Abercrombie Kids took the Ashley padded bikini top off their website. But, there is still another bikini there that has “removable padding”.
14 Feb 2011
in Advice, Body Image Issues, Development, Self-Esteem, Sex, Teenagers, Uncategorized
Tags: Advice, Body Image Issues, Cassandra Mack, Development, High School, Self-Esteem, Sex, SExually Transmitted Diseases, STD, Teen Sex, Teenagers, Teens
The choice to have sex is a decision that only you can make. Even if your parents have talked to you a thousand times or threatened to tie a chastity belt around your waste if you even think about having sex, the bottom line is only you can decide how soon you are going to have sex. Believe it or not, the best decision is to wait. Why? Because a smart girl knows that the longer she waits the more time she will have to make sure she doesn’t make a momentary decision that she might later regret. Did you know that in a survey where high school girls were asked whether or not they regretted having sex in their teens, more than half said that they wish they had waited?
This is why you need to think of a strategy to help you hold off on sex until you are absolutely sure you won’t make a decision that you might later regret. You need to decide now before you get caught in the heat of the moment, what your position on sex will be. If you wait until you get caught up in the movement, how will you know if you’ve made the right decision? The decision to have sex can affect your self-image, your reputation, your health, your education, your goals, how soon you become a mother, and so much more. You’ve got to be sure that you won’t have any regrets after it’s all said and done. More
10 Feb 2011
in Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Children, Clothing for Moms & Kids…What is Appropriate?, Fashion, Self-Esteem, Sex, Uncategorized
Tags: Appropriate Clothing for Kids, Barbie, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Bratz, Children, Dolls, Fashion, Music, Self-Esteem, Sex, Sexualization of Girls, TV, Video
According to the book Forever Barbie by M.G. Lord, if Barbie were human-sized, she would stand 5 feet 6 inches tall, weigh 110 pounds, have a 39-inch bust line, an 18-inch waist, 33-inch hips, and her feet would only fit into high heels. Personally, I think the Bratz dolls are much more offensive. I don’t think of myself as uber conservative, but those dolls are not allowed in our house. I read somewhere that if a Bratz doll was human-sized, her head would weigh 100 pounds, her breasts would be size 40GG, and she would have a 12-inch waist. The measurements of both dolls are so unrealistic. I wish the proportions of dolls were more true to real life, but at the moment, I’m a more concerned about the risqué clothing, make up, pumped up lips, and personas the Bratz Dolls are conveying.
The Bratz dolls are wearing ten pounds of make up and such skimpy clothing that they look like prostitutes. I am confused why these dolls are selling and why parents are allowing their girls to play with them. At least Barbie has an education, career, and has broken glass ceilings. She has been a veterinarian, lawyer, doctor, mom, astronaut, sister, teacher, etc. There is no telling Barbie, “girls can’t do that”, and there are some non-sexual clothing options available for her.
Bratz are catty and gossipy, and their message is quite negative. Some moms say that they use the Bratz dolls as learning opportunities to discuss what is inappropriate. Okay—Do you have to buy one to do that? No, point it out in Target and talk about how promiscuous clothing and loads of make up are not appropriate—don’t feed into the MGA Entertainment money-making machine and sexualization of girls. Buying the dolls sends the message that we, consumers, want more of that kind of product and branding.
Have you viewed the Bratz show? It’s an insult to girls’ intelligence and sends a bad message. Here is a clip of what some young girls are watching today:
Growing up, I wasn’t interested in Barbie dolls. When I received one as a gift, I would cut its hair, cast it aside, and run outside to play. I know some girls love dolls and who am I to say they should not be allowed to have dolls, and that’s not what I’m saying at all. In fact, although my oldest daughter has had no interest in dolls, my youngest daughter LOVES them! What I am saying is lets pick dolls and outfits that are more natural and age appropriate looking. I do like the American Girl Dolls, but unfortunately, they cost $100 each. What I really wish is that there was an affordable line of dolls available, which display a variety of body shapes, ethnicities, and clothes that are not sexed up and that promote positive body image, self-esteem, intelligence, and diversity. Manufacturers’ will make them if enough people stop buying the sexualized dolls.
Sorry if I’ve offended anyone, but I feel passionate about this topic. Every time I see one of those Bratz dolls in Target or see another oversexed outfit, I feel ill. I feel sick because the message they are sending to our very young girls is that if you want to be cool, pretty, successful, and have boys like you, then you need to dress “sexy”, wear a lot of make up, be spiteful, and act unintelligent. This really isn’t about Barbie vs. Bratz. It’s about both the direct and indirect messages we are sending to our young girls with the merchandise that we buy and allow in our homes.
What do you think?
07 Feb 2011
in Development, Family, Getting Ready for Baby, Kids, Marriage, Mental & Physical Health, Organization, Pregnancy, Relationships, Religion, Self-Esteem, Sex, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Development, Family, Getting Ready for Baby, Kids, Marriage, Mental & Physical Health, Organization, Pregnancy, Relationships, Religion, Self-Esteem, Sex, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
I had spent the last ten years of my life traveling the world as a model and only having me to worry about. I knew exactly what to do the minute I was confirmed for the job. Whether it involved international travel, multiple days of work, foreign languages, or just a quick drive down the road. Whatever my agencies threw my way I KNEW I could handle it.
So when I found out I was pregnant with my now six-year old son, I was so excited. I was engaged to my husband when we found out about Ramsee. It was such an exciting moment. Over the next several months, my life took a turn for the unknown. More
17 Jan 2011
in Adoption, Advice, Allergies, Baby Names, Beauty, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Breast Feeding, Bullies & Mean People, Celebrations & Parties, Clothing for Moms & Kids…What is Appropriate?, Controversial Parenting, Daycare, Eating Disorders, Education, Fitness, Food, Picky Eaters & Feeding Issues, Games & Crafts, Getting Ready for Baby, Green Living, Health, High School, In-Laws, Infertility, Keeping Up with the Jones’, Marriage, Medication & Prescription Drugs, Menopause, Mental & Physical Health, Mid-life Crisis, Miscarriage, Money, Must Haves, Perfection, Personalities and Temperaments, PMS, Politics, Precious Moments, Pregnancy, Prejudice, Pressure, Quotes, Recipes, Relationships, Religion, Sex, Single Moms, Sleep, Snobby Moms, Special Needs, Style, Support Groups, Teachers, Technology, Teenagers, Things I Said I’d Never Do, Time Outs for Everyone, Toddlers, Toys, Transitions, Uncategorized, Working Moms
This website is for all you parents out there who want to hear the real ins and outs of being a mom. We will discuss the moments, days, feelings, and experiences that most moms don’t usually share with anyone but their closest friends. Almost every mom I’ve met has said that no one ever told her what it’s really like to be a parent. You hear about how wonderful, fun, and lovey everything is (and that’s true), but people don’t tell you about the craziness, unpredictability, and all-encompassing reality of what it’s like to raise kids. I wish I would’ve known the truth sooner, so that I never would’ve felt like a failure for not being perfect. Thankfully, I don’t feel that way anymore–what is perfect, anyway!?! I am perfectly unperfected and so are you. Let’s help all the mom’s out there feel good about themselves and their children, by being real.
This is a place for EVERYONE to have honest, direct dialogue without judgment. Secrets will be told and almost anything goes. We will cover every topic imaginable–the good, the bad, and the funny. Several of my friends will be on-going contributors, and we hope you will comment often. Let yourself be heard! Dads are welcome too. Please share your stories, send us comments and pictures, and tell the truth. As long as you are speaking your truth, you are welcome here. Please be kind to each other, interact, and ask questions.
No nude pictures or completely deviant comments, please.
Liz Nord is the creator of www.secretsofmoms.com. She is a wife and mother of two daughters ages six and nine. She loves family, running, reading, seeking knowledge, baking, laughing, innovating, traveling, in-depth conversations, sunshine, and outdoor adventures. She earned a B.A. in Communications, and completed graduate editing courses at the University of Washington. Liz has published articles in a number of magazines, newspapers, and on numerous websites. She has been a guest on the Leeza Gibbons talk show, Hollywood Confidential, and serves on the Editing Certificate Advisory Board at the University of Washington. She is also the co-creator of Plus-Size Models Unite. She is passionate about promoting healthy self-esteem, positive body image, and confidence. She believes in cultivating who you are truly meant to be and embracing your unique self.
We are an eclectic, intelligent, fun group of women, who are all here to share our parenting experiences. Introducing the rest of the team: More