20 Mar 2012
in Advice, Anxiety, Babies, Behavior Issues, Children, Fashion, Organization, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Development, Discipline, Family, Going Back to Work, Martha Stewart, Mental & Physical Health, Organization, Perfection, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Management, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Since I started working for the family business and am spending more time getting ready to teach a social media class at the UW, I’ve had little to no extra time to write here. I miss it. Working part-time has been an interesting balancing act that has had both good and bad outcomes.
The first month I went back to work, I was pretty much a wreck. I forgot a birthday, didn’t pay the monthly piano lesson bill, and showed up at the dog groomers instead of for my hair appointment—and even now, I’m sure I’m neglecting to remember what else I forgot. If you know, don’t remind me, please. It’s over. More
17 Oct 2011
in Best & Worst Parenting Products, Clothing for Moms & Kids…What is Appropriate?, Fashion, Pressure, Shopping with Kids
Tags: Appropriate Clothing for Kids, Fashion, Girls Halloween Costumes, Kids Halloween Costumes, Pressure, Sexy Halloween Costumes, Style, Tweens
Photo from Party City.
I took my six and nine-year-old daughters to Party City to pick out their Halloween costumes. We go there because they have the largest selection of Halloween costumes in our area. The kids section is on one wall and the teen and adult section is a few feet away on a different wall. Olivia chose a witch costume and Bella chose the Avatar Neytiri costume. Fine so far, except for this… More
23 Aug 2011
in Best & Worst Parenting Products, Body Image Issues, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Confidence, Eating Disorders, Education, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Beauty, Body Image Issues, Books, Children, Confidence, Development, Eating Disorders, Kids Dieting, Maggie Goes on a Diet, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem
We cannot ignore the fact that some children are obese and that may lead to self-esteem, body image, confidence, and serious long-term physical health issues. I understand that this is a complex issue that needs to be addressed. But this type of book, with that type of title, isn’t the way to go about making a positive change. This book is irresponsible and sends an unhealthy message. More
16 Aug 2011
in Beauty, Body Image Issues, Confidence, Controversial Parenting, Development, Mid-life Crisis, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Beauty, Body Image Issues, Confidence, Controversial Pareneting, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Katie Makkai, a veteran poetry slammer, defining the word “pretty”. This video is a little intense at times and worth watching to the very end when Katie delivers the goods! (Not appropriate for young children.)
I was looking through a magazine last weekend when my nine-year old daughter, Bella, noticed a head shot of a women in her late 60′s. More
07 Jul 2011
in Abuse, Anxiety, Behavior Issues, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Bullies & Mean People, Discipline, Divorce, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Relationships, Support Groups
Tags: Chat rooms, Computers, Cyber bully, Discipline, Divorce, Internet, Pornography, Sex
While researching for this piece, I found some very disturbing internet information and statistics. Did you know that 60% of all websites on the Internet are pornographic websites? That’s about 1.2 billion.
According to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, “One out of every five children who have access to the internet have received online sexual solicitations. Pedophiles often pose as children to build trust with kids and then lure them to meet them in person. It takes an average of 2 to 4 weeks for a child to fall for this trap.”
One of the biggest causes of the rise in online child molestation is due to poor parental supervision of their child’s internet activity.
Did you know that of the 500,000 dial-a-porn calls made in a day, 70% are made by minors who get the contact information off the internet. I had no idea… More
13 Jun 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Andrea Owen, Family, Life Coach, Motherhood, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Struggles, Taboo Topics, Your Kick Ass Life
Andrea Owen rocks! She is funny, intelligent, open, caring, and inspiring. Andrea is also a speaker and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about helping women empower themselves to live their own kick-ass life.
Here is Andrea…
Do I love my kids? Check!
Am I grateful for how awesome and healthy they are? Check!
Am I so happy I get to be a mommy? Check!
Is motherhood and being a stay-at-home-mom everything I’d always dreamed it would be? Ch—-
Er… no. More
11 May 2011
in Anxiety, Beauty, Behavior Issues, Body Image Issues, Discipline, Keeping Up with the Jones’, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Anxiety, Bahavior Issues, Beauty, Body Image Issues, Discipline, Mental Health, Perfection, Personalities, Pressure, Self-Esteem
I have always been a Type A, high-energy person who has lots of goals and “to do” lists. My goals don’t include flying to the moon, being a rock star, becoming a neuroscientist, or anything amazing like that, but they are mine and they are important to me. I’m at my best and happiest when I’m meeting challenges head on and juggling lots of things at once. Sometimes, I feel like a hummingbird flying here and there trying to get it all done. I love that feeling. I’ve always enjoyed striving to reach new goals–until suddenly I wasn’t having fun anymore.
I’m not sure why or when it happened, but something shifted within me. I was trying to make everything “perfect” instead of enjoying the process of learning, creating, and reaching goals. Somehow, I got it stuck in my head that I needed to up the ante. I did this to myself—no one else did. I wanted everything to be “just so”. We all know there is no way to have the “perfect” body, hair, complexion, clothes, relationships, marriage, kids, career, or life. Perfection does not exist, but still… More
09 May 2011
in Anxiety, Children, Confidence, Development, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Transitions
Tags: Anxiety, Challenges, Comfort Zone, Confidence, Development, Life, Margaret Dilloway, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Teaching Kids to Ride Bikes, Transitions
Santa brought bikes for the girls last Christmas. In October, we had to sell all our stuff to move from Hawaii back to San Diego, so this was a Very Big Deal around here.
Our 5-year-old, Kaiya, had never owned one before, and had admired the pink one adorned with Princesses every time we went to Costco. It’s a pretty bike, with a zippered pouch on the front, streamers, and a bell.
She got on for about two seconds, helmet and all, and hopped off.
“I don’t want to ride it,” she said. More
06 Apr 2011
in Advice, Body Image Issues, Children, Controversial Parenting, Eating Disorders, Education, Food, Picky Eaters & Feeding Issues, Health, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Self-Esteem
Tags: Advice, Body Image Issues, Children, Controversial Parenting, Dieting, Eating Disorders, Education, Food, Health, Kids, Lifestyle, Perfection, Redbook Magazine, Self-Esteem, Weight
I am in the April issue of Redbook, discussing if we should put our children on diets. I said, “No”. This is my unedited version. I’d love to hear what you think!
Also, I am contributing to Cassandra Mack’s new book, “Grooming Girls for Greatness: Advice and Wisdom for Parents From Parents, Teachers, and Caregivers,” which will be out late Summer or in the Fall. This is a book to help parents build confidence, character, and coping skills in their daughters. More info to come…
Should Parents Put Their Kids on Diets?
Diets and children are not a good mix. I want my kids to have life-long healthy relationships with food and their bodies. By modeling a healthy lifestyle, we can teach our children to celebrate their bodies, savor food, and be active for life. Dieting, which includes food deprivation, restrictive eating, excessive exercise, and negative body talk, can lead to low self-esteem, negative body image, and serious eating disorders.
I have heard first-hand, from women who dieted as children, who expressed the horrible physical, mental, and social consequences and warped thinking that diets lead to—I even know someone who died from the affects of childhood dieting because it led to her disorder eating, which spiraled out of control. I also know women who have wrecked their metabolism, become obese, become anorexic, suffer from body image issues, or lost teeth from binging that started as “innocent” childhood dieting and food vilification. More
05 Apr 2011
in Body Image Issues, Bullies & Mean People, Eating Disorders, Education, Fitness, Health, High School, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Teachers, Teenagers
Tags: Andrea Owen, Body Image Issues, CA, Eating Disorders, Education, Fitness, Health, Mean People, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Self-Esteem, Teachers, Teenagers, Valencia, West Ranch High School
One of my friend’s, Andrea Owen, shared this story with me about what happened at West Ranch High School in Valencia, CA last week. It’s unbelievable…
This is part of a note from Carrie (via Andrea Owen).
“I have a girl who works for me, who is a senior in high school. She’s a total rock star. She came to work today with a cranberry juice drink, and I asked her what it was and what she was doing. It looked suspiciously like a fast and she’s a slim girl to start with. She told me that their AP Anatomy teacher had them all measure their BMI and their Body Fat and write it on the board with their name and that they get 10% extra credit on their final if they can all lose 10% of their body fat in the next two weeks. She told me that the class is really hard and that she needs the extra credit. She told me that she asked if it was okay to just put male/female and the numbers instead of putting down their names because one of her friends in the class is overweight and was embarrassed. He said that they had to put their names. She told me that five girls left the class crying and that some of the boys were taking pictures of the data with their phones and she thinks they’re going to put it on Facebook.”
Can you believe that business? That doesn’t exactly provide a healthy stress-free learning environment for all of the children. Not only does this seem like a privacy violation, but the teacher displays very poor taste. I can’t believe he was letting students take pictures of everyone’s weight and BMI. Also, I highly doubt all kids in the class need to lose 10% BMI. What about those who are already thin, but feel the need to lose weight to make the grade? Losing 10% BMI in two weeks could be dangerous.
A person’s weight and BMI should have nothing to do with the grade they receive in class–ever. Also, I cannot think of one good reason to make it mandatory to put their names, weight, and BMI on the chalkboard.
If you had a high school aged child who came home and told you this, what would your reaction be?