05 Mar 2012
in Children, Death, Divorce, Family, Relationships
Tags: Absent Fathers, Children, Death of Parent, Divorce, Half-siblings, Life, Relationships, Starting over
Above picture from Pinterest. Quote from Benjamin Button.
Today I saw some pictures that my half-sister posted on Facebook. They were pictures of a part of my family that I don’t know very well. The pictures included all four of my older half-siblings from my father’s first marriage and photos of my father as a young man.
I only remember meeting my biological father a handful of times before he died. He died while I was in college and he and my mom divorced before I turned one. I have no memory of what he looked like as a young man, and I don’t know much about who he was and what he was like in person. Seeing the pictures of him and his first family struck a nerve deep within me. It’s painful. More
22 Feb 2012
in Family, Kids, Marriage, Precious Moments
Tags: Death, Life, Living Now, Love
Photo of our girls.
This past weekend was emotional. Sunday we heard about three guys who died in an avalanche backcountry skiing at Stevens Pass. My husband and his friends ski back there all the time. As it turns out, my husband went to school with two of the skiers who died. Another one of our good friends, Adam, was there with the skiers when the avalanche hit and he tried to resuscitate one of the men who died. Adam is an awesome man.
It’s always sad when someone dies, but knowing how young these guys were, that they left loved ones behind, and that my husband’s friend was a father of an eight and a ten year old, really hit home hard. You just never know where life will take you so love the ones your with right now.
I saw the below list last week. I think it’s important. More
31 Jan 2012
in Anxiety, Children, Confidence, Development, Elementary School, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Stay-at-Home Moms, Support Groups, Time Management, Working Moms
Tags: Anxiety, Kids in School, Pressure, Stay-at-Home Moms, Transitions, Working Moms
Photo from Pinterest
Here I am sitting in café writing. I never do this-ever! I’m feeling really crunched for time lately. I’m here at the café writing because we live thirty minutes from our daughters’ school/dance classes and it seems silly to drive all the way home and then turn around and drive another half hour back when I’m already commuting a minimum of two hours a day. I’m trying to be more disciplined, organized, and efficient with my time. You’d think I’d have lots of extra time since I’m a stay-at-home mom and my kids are in 1st and 4th grade, but I don’t.
Life is busy and being a stay-at-home mom is busier than it may seem. There are so many things to do every day (I’m not sitting around doing nothing). Sometimes the work that I do seems invisible because it’s repetitive. Like making sure all the laundry is clean, cooking home-made meals every night, making egg-free lunches every day, washing dishes, cleaning the house, driving the kids to and from school and after school activities, helping with homework, volunteering at their school, quality family time, etc. The list goes on forever.
I’ve thought a lot lately about how working moms do it. I feel inadequate when I think about it. Sometimes I feel like maybe I should do more…Then I think about everything I do and I circle back to—I am doing a lot. I’m productive; I’m not lazy. How do working moms do it all!?!
Something has to give, right? More
20 Jan 2012
in Children, Family
Tags: Children at Home, Family, Ingalls, Pioneering Women, School's Out, Snow Days
I grew up on “Little House on the Prairie”. The TV show, the books, even my imaginary friend, Laura. I used to run home from school so that I could watch the rerun at 3:00 in the afternoon. I admire so much about the pioneering spirit and all that those who took the chance and moved west accomplished. If it weren’t for those pioneers I would not be here on the Far West Coast. The Westward movement has become my favorite era in history. Today I am admiring Ma Ingalls for those long winters spent in a one-room cabin with two little girls when it was too cold and snowy outside to leave the house. More
10 Jul 2011
in Family, Mental & Physical Health, Precious Moments, Relationships
Tags: Death, Life, Regrets
I went for a run today. I have been running the same loop almost every day for 15 years. I run other routes, but this is my favorite because I run alongside the ocean and I’ve gotten to know the people along the route. Sometimes I stop to chat, sometimes I just wave and yell “hello”, and when the timing is right, I help an elderly lady bring her garbage can out to the road. When you see the same people several times a week for over 15 years, you develop rapport if you so choose.
There was one elderly woman (not the lady I help with the garbage can), who I had an intimate conversation with in 1999. She told me her story. It was a sad story. An unhappy marriage. Abuse. Unfulfilled dreams. She had given up on herself and was living the life of a victim. We have seen each other innumerable times over the years since our conversation, but she pretends our conversation never happened. Maybe she’s embarrassed or maybe she doesn’t remember our conversation. I don’t know which, but whenever I see her, I still wave and say hello. Sometimes she nods and sometimes she turns away. I have no idea what she’s thinking. More
07 Jul 2011
in Abuse, Anxiety, Behavior Issues, Best & Worst Parenting Products, Books, DVD’s, Music & Video Games, Bullies & Mean People, Discipline, Divorce, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Pressure, Relationships, Support Groups
Tags: Chat rooms, Computers, Cyber bully, Discipline, Divorce, Internet, Pornography, Sex
While researching for this piece, I found some very disturbing internet information and statistics. Did you know that 60% of all websites on the Internet are pornographic websites? That’s about 1.2 billion.
According to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, “One out of every five children who have access to the internet have received online sexual solicitations. Pedophiles often pose as children to build trust with kids and then lure them to meet them in person. It takes an average of 2 to 4 weeks for a child to fall for this trap.”
One of the biggest causes of the rise in online child molestation is due to poor parental supervision of their child’s internet activity.
Did you know that of the 500,000 dial-a-porn calls made in a day, 70% are made by minors who get the contact information off the internet. I had no idea… More
26 Jun 2011
in Beauty, Children, Family, Precious Moments
Tags: Building Memories by Miranda Lambert, Family, Memories, Precious Moments
Last night, my nine-year old daughter, Bella, danced in her last performance of the year. It was an amazing production and the kids were awesome. The show closed with a dance that was beautifully choreographed to the song, The House That Built Me, by Miranda Lambert. The song is emotional and touching—it reminded me of my childhood memories and made me really stop to think about the memories I’m helping create for our children.
Have you heard the song or watched the video? You must… More
13 Jun 2011
in Am I Going Crazy?, Family, Mental & Physical Health, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Time Outs for Everyone
Tags: Andrea Owen, Family, Life Coach, Motherhood, Perfection, Pressure, Relationships, Stay-at-Home Moms, Struggles, Taboo Topics, Your Kick Ass Life
Andrea Owen rocks! She is funny, intelligent, open, caring, and inspiring. Andrea is also a speaker and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about helping women empower themselves to live their own kick-ass life.
Here is Andrea…
Do I love my kids? Check!
Am I grateful for how awesome and healthy they are? Check!
Am I so happy I get to be a mommy? Check!
Is motherhood and being a stay-at-home-mom everything I’d always dreamed it would be? Ch—-
Er… no. More
15 May 2011
in Celebrations & Parties, Family, Kids, Perfection, Precious Moments, Stay-at-Home Moms, Transitions
Tags: Celebrate Life, Family, Life, Perfection, Precious Moments, School, Summer, Transitions, Vacation
Photo from BellaMUMMA.
The kids’ anticipation for summer break is growing. The jubilant energy buzzing through the air is spilling out of the classrooms and halls onto the playground and into our car as we drive away from school. I especially noticed it last Friday. There are still more performances, field trips, celebrations, and graduations to attend, but the kids are starting to ask on a daily basis, “How many days of school are left”…they don’t seem to care that the weather isn’t cooperating quite yet. They are just excited for a break. More
07 May 2011
in Celebrations & Parties, Family, Relationships
Tags: Celebrations & Parties, Family, Life, Mother's Day, Relationships
To My Mother
For all the times you gently picked me up,
When I fell down,
For all the times you tied my shoes
And tucked me into bed,
Or needed something
But put me first instead.
For everything we shared,
The dreams, the laughter,
And the tears,
I love you with a “Special Love”
That deepens every year.
This is what a few moms and daughters I know had to say about their loved ones…