Sometimes closing a door on part of our life can be difficult. For me, the most challenging and emotional part of making life changes is the gray area of the decision-making and the transition period that follows making the choice. Whether it’s ending a toxic relationship, standing up to a bully who veils themselves as something they are not, moving, switching jobs or schools, deciding not to have more (or any) children, choosing to stay at home with the kids, going to work full-time, simply ending a conversation, or being brave enough to state our opinions, which may not please everyone around us and could lead to the end of a relationship—we have to be authentic and do what is right in our hearts.
We may worry about the what if’s, could have’s, should have’s, if only, etc. The list goes on forever and sometimes causes us to drag our feet in the decision-making process. That’s natural. But, what I’ve found is that once I actually make a conscious decision to close a door based on what my heart tells me is the right thing to do, it’s truly liberating. I wonder, why didn’t I make this choice sooner?
Oh, don’t get me wrong, it may be scary, painful, or make us uneasy for a time. But, if the decision comes from a deep place of knowing in our hearts and minds, then the choice is right, your world actually expands, and things will turn out for the better.
Closing a door can be amazing! It’s like the whoosh of air from closing one door, magically pushes open other more positive, healthy, creative doors that were really there all along waiting for us to see.
I hope to teach our daughters that it’s okay to close a door and that they have the strength and courage to forge new paths that work best for them.
“A path is only a path, and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you . . . Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary. Then ask yourself alone, one question . . . Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t it is of no use.”