I’m perplexed by organizations or individuals who put on the façade of empowering ALL women to love themselves and their bodies, but who are in reality only narrowly accepting that which falls into the ideas, messages, and images that work for their way of thinking or their body type. Why is it that some of the people who say they are for promoting positive body image, actually shut down the women who do not have bodies similar to their own?
Recently, a group, who claims to empower women and girls to love their bodies, contradicted themselves by posting a picture of a women’s body and making fun of her for looking too “manly”. (I guess the model wasn’t curvy enough to be considered feminine to the poster.) How can an organization possibly say they are promoting self-esteem, confidence, and positive body image for all women and girls while mocking a woman’s body? It’s completely bogus and harmful. There are a lot of naturally lanky teenage girls out there who also feel insecure about their thin appearance. Imagine how they would feel seeing that post.
Saying curvy is better than thin is no better than saying thin is better than curvy.
How about ALL women are uniquely beautiful!?! I like that message better myself.
Thin, curvy, pear-shaped, apple-shaped, plus-sized, straight, full-figured, skinny, muscular, petite, or whatever other adjective we may use to describe a women’s body shape—They are ALL beautiful! The reality is that it’s great to be healthy skinny or healthy full-figured. One way is not better that the other.
When organizations and individuals mock certain body types that is contributing to spreading negative body image messages. Women and girls don’t need more negative body image talk, especially not from people who say they are helping women with body image issues.
Girls and women need role models who are walking the talk and who understand and express that beauty is more than skin deep.
Being beautiful and healthy is about taking care of our bodies, exercising, feeling centered, eating healthy, laughing, having fun, learning, living, loving, and divulging in whatever your cravings are in moderation. Beauty is about how we treat people, the inner workings of our heart and minds, what we create, how we love and live our day-to-day lives, and when what we think, say, and do are all in harmony.
We can be many different places on the size or weight chart to be healthy, happy, and authentically beautiful.
That is the message I think positive body image and self-esteem “experts” should be sending and the message that will help bring women together for the greater good of empowering girls and women everywhere.
Let’s work together for the greater good, break down barriers, embrace true diversity, and practice what we preach.
There. I said it. And, I feel so much better.