I was reading in a waiting room before a doctor’s appointment last week, when I noticed a couple in their late 60’s or early 70’s sitting near by. I can’t put my finger on exactly what it was, but something about them caught my eye.
They weren’t talking, but they looked peaceful and happy. Their arms were intertwined carelessly, yet gracefully.
Why am I staring at them?
After a few minutes the lady said, “Remember when you left me that message a long time ago? You said you just called to tell me you were thinking about me and that you love me.”
The man nodded.
She said, “I still have that message and I listen to it from time to time. It makes me happy.”
The man smiled and then the lady smiled too.
The love and warmth they felt for each other was palpable.
I melted. I’m a hopeless romantic at heart.
I know these seem like such simplistic gestures of affection, but the genuine ways in which we show our loved ones how much we care about them are so much more powerful and meaningful than empty lip service or gifts given without thought.
I heard someone say once that for every negative thing we say or do to our loved one, we must do or say five genuine positives to make up for that one negative statement or action, or the relationship will die. It may die slowly or quickly, but continued tension and negatively will always end what could have been a perfectly wonderful relationship.
I think about that with all of my relationships. It’s so much easier to be kind than to have to make up for being insensitive, disrespectful, selfish, or crass. If you or your loved ones don’t give in kind, well, we all know how that story ends.
Be kind to those you love and treasure the simple moments that make up the minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, and the years that add up to your lifetime.
Authentically loving someone and feeling authentically loved is the most powerful feeling on earth.