Note from Liz: I met Kate Fridkis on-line about a year ago through our blogs (sounds funny, but true). She started a new project that I would like to share with you. Here is Kate…
Kate Fridkis blogs about body image at Eat the Damn Cake and education/homeschooling at Un-schooled. She also writes for the Huffington Post and Aol’s MyDaily. She is twenty-five and lives in Manhattan, where she feels dramatically unfashionable on a regular basis.
It’s always a big decision. There’s always a disclaimer. There might be a brief struggle. We’re never supposed to. Actually, we really shouldn’t. We’re always saying that. “I shouldn’t.” We insult ourselves. “I’m such a pig.” We roll our eyes. “I can’t believe I’m doing this.”
It’s a piece of cake.
But it’s never JUST a piece of cake.
It’s sinful. It’s disobedient. It’s wrong. It’s bad. It’s breaking a promise with ourselves– with the world. It’s unhealthy.
I don’t want it to mean so much, every time. Or I want the meaning to change. I want it to mean, “Yes!” I want it to mean chocolate and cherries and ice cream and happiness. I want it to mean play and pleasure. I want to eat it defiantly. With dinner. Whenever the moods strikes. I want to eat it without having to think about it.
So many women have developed an antagonistic relationship with food. Because of our bodies and the ways we want them to look, and the ways our world tells us over and over they should look. When I noticed that very young women and even girls, who were fifteen and eighteen and twenty and twenty-three, would say, “I shouldn’t,” when I offered dessert, I got confused. When I noticed myself turning down cake, I got angry. I named my blog “Eat the Damn Cake,” and started talking about my relationship with my body. I wanted other women and girls to talk, too. And while we were talking, I wanted us to eat some cake.
I’ve teamed up with the absolutely incredible photographer Gloria Baker Feinstein on a project that’s all about women and cake. Gloria invited women and girls into her studio to eat cake and talk about how they felt about it, and then we compiled the photos and quotes. Please check it out! I really want this project to grow. I would love to share any pictures you send me of yourself with cake. Spread the word! And the love! And, most importantly, the cake!
Thank you so much to all the women and girls (and several toddlers) who participated. You are all amazing!